“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.”
When someone tells you that the only thing you have to do to be successful or fulfill your dreams is to break out of your comfort zone, it sounds easy, right? I mean this doesn’t SOUND like an impossible task, but in fact, it’s one of the most difficult but also most rewarding things a person can do in their life. The definition of Comfort Zone is a place or situation where someone feels safe or at ease and without stress. Why would anyone want to leave a place like that?! In our comfort zone, we’re protected from our fears and doubts. What we’re also protected from is our potential to be great. What truly great person do you know has made it by playing it safe in life? I can’t think of a single one. They all were faced with the possibility of failure, but they were also faced with the possibility of success. I’ve personally kept myself in the trap known as the Comfort Zone for far too long and for many reasons that don’t necessarily make sense when I think about it. First off, I’ve been tremendously afraid of failure. “What if I don’t make it? What if it flops? What if I’m wasting my time?” Honestly, I’ve been wasting my time by constantly coming up with these ideas and not even trying to put any action behind it. If you step out and try, you have a 50/50 chance of it going either way. However, if you don’t try, you’re giving yourself the definite outcome of failure. Ohhh, and there’s my favorite reason for not breaking out of my comfort zone. “What will people think?” The lives of millennials have been molded to evolve around what everyone else thinks about us from our economic status, our relationship status, and especially our appearance. We grew up in the social media era where our level of coolness is directly correlated to how many Instagram and Facebook likes we get, what designer clothes we wear, and how much we spend on that bag or those shoes. Seriously. People are out here doing it for the ‘gram at an all-time high. I can specifically remember a time when a friend of mine came over to my apartment in college for one of our sad, ice-cream eating/my boyfriend is worse than yours sessions. I’m not sure why we were with those idiots! Needless to say, I did a MAJOR upgrade. Sorry, I’m getting beside the point. So, I had this pink hookah in my room. She asked, “You actually smoke those?” I replied, “Yeah, why?” She proceeded to say, “I would never smoke.” I brushed off the comment and proceeded to step into the kitchen for some ice-cream. When I returned, I opened my phone and headed to Instagram to check out some tea from my favorite gossip blog, The Shaderoom. Before I could even type in The, what do I see? My friend who just turned her nose up to my hookah doing it for the ‘gram by posting that same hookah with the caption, “My Current Situation.” I could’ve blasted her, but I just chuckled to myself. Although I’ve never been one to lie about what I have and don’t have, I have been the type of person that rips apart a photo before I post it. I also think it has to be the perfect angle, the perfect light, and a damn near perfect picture before I hit POST. I’ve purposely kept my opinions and statuses I felt like expressing to myself for fear of leaving my comfort zone. I’m also worried that people will judge me for who I am which is a goofy, clumsy woman who likes to read, hike, bike, occasionally play 2K with my boyfriend (I’ll beat every last one of y’all in Madden too), and is perfectly comfortable spending a Saturday watching re-runs of Game of Thrones instead of turning up in the club. However, today I’m making one small step toward the decision to break out and dare to be my great self that I truly am. Uncle Charla said There are no losses in life, only lessons. So whether I fail or succeed, the most important thing I take away from it is that I’m constantly learning and growing in the process.