Acrimony

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This past weekend, my fiancé and I decided to go and see the new Taraji P. Henson movie, Acrimony, and I couldn’t help but leave the movie theater feeling a little torn. I absolutely don’t want to give too many spoilers away, but if you’ve seen the previews, then what I’m about to say won’t come as too much of a surprise to you. The movie centers around newly-divorced Melinda and her ex-husband, Robert. Melinda tells the complete story of her and Robert’s relationship. The bottom line is that they met and fell in love in college, and despite the warning signs and doubt from her family, Melinda and Robert quickly got married. It’s difficult for me to explain why I’m so torn and what I’m so torn about without giving a little something away. Spoiler Alert: Melinda eventually asked Robert for a divorce. Their marriage wasn’t exactly a cake walk, but it was really her sisters who had gotten into her head about her husband. Long story short, Melinda eventually wants to get back with Robert, but after paying him a visit, she quickly realized that wasn’t going to happen. He had moved on and everything that was wrong with their relationship, he was now making up for with his new woman. Now, anyone watching the previews can see that Melinda was definitely off the rocker, but was it really for no reason at all? I’m definitely not justifying her crazy, but does her ex-husband not have a part in this at all? What if this happened to you? How would you react? I personally see it as this. Too many times, men screw over the woman that they’ve been with for over a decade, but quickly start over with the next woman. It always seems like it’s the women who are with them while they’re in the mud too, but then they trade them in for a younger or more high profile version once they get to a certain status. This isn’t completely the case with Melinda, because Robert didn’t want to leave in the first place, but the situation is still painful. The entire time I’m like, “Damn, that’s messed up, but she took crazy to a whole new level.” My fiancé’s first reaction after seeing the movie: “Man she was crazy as hell!” My first reaction: “Yeah she definitely was, but how would you react to that situation?” I want to know what you all think about this. If you’ve seen the movie, did you feel for Melinda at all and how would you react? For someone like me, it takes a while for me to love you but once I do, I love pretty hard. It would take a lot of ice cream and loud, ugly singing to Beyoncé and Adele to get me through it, but I’d definitely get there one way or the other. Adele would help me wish him well and Beyoncé would get me to the point of feeling myself! How do you all get over heartbreak? I want to know some of your craziest/funniest breakup rituals and/or stories!

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Asia Vallier

Born in Lafayette, Louisiana. Raised in Houston, Texas. Poetry, music, theater, and movies have always intrigued me, and all things artistic live at the core of who I am. I've always kept a composition notebook at my side at all times whether that be for journaling, writing music or writing my ideas. At some point, I realized that what I was searching for to express myself had been there all along in my writing. I hope to inspire and invoke thought into each and every one of my readers. Blessings!

9 thoughts on “Acrimony

  1. I’m sure you knew I was going to comment, lol! First, let me say PHENOMENAL MOVIE. Honestly this movie was filled with life lessons! I completely understand her anger and frustration! But like most men, it’s easy for them to move on to the next , ive seen it plenty of times! I must say the biggest lesson I got from it was FORGIVNESS ! OMG, forgiveness is the biggest step to moving on, if she was able to forgive him for the hell and struggle she went through, she would have been able to accept his “gesture” .. And move on in a more healthier way!

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    1. Girl yes! She should’ve forgave him and took that money to buy her a lovely new life😂. I totally understand her anger as well and it’s like I felt for her. She was there through the hard times and the new woman reaped the benefits, but it wasn’t all on him though! I loved it!

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  2. I haven’t watched the movie yet but from what I see from the previews,she is definitely crazy. I’m a little scared to watch it because I was once a Melinda. But truthfully speaking, I didn’t become a Melinda over night. I became a Melinda by dealing with alot and expecting to much from a person who wasn’t willing to do what it took to keep me happy. I became crazy by crying myself to sleep many nights because of being cheated on, put down and physically fighting every other night. But I was still hopeful. And of course I was no angel. I had days where I wasn’t willing to let things slide so I would start an argument and become confrontational. It took me a long time to learn that a significant other will only do what they are allowed to do. Now for me, when I finally had enough and put my foot down,I became intimidating in his eyes and long story short he left. And that’s what was the most devistating because I realized that my feelings didn’t matter. And for me,I was with this person for ten years so it drove me crazy to know I wasted ten years of my life. Only for him to get in another relationship and do EVERYTHING I would ask him to do. I don’t condone psychotic behavior but understand how it can happen.

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    1. That’s what I’m saying! I don’t approve of what she did, but I definitely can understand. I’m sorry that you had to go through that, but I’m happy you came out of that situation. I think what upsets us more than anything is the time that was invested and wasted, but every loss in life is a lesson! Thanks for your input 🙂

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      1. Yes! My experience was definitely a lesson. But it has made me stronger, independent and has increased my faith in God. Can’t wait to read more of your posts.

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  3. I haven’t quite seen it and was ina major debate about doing but now I’m puzzled and want to see it ASAP! But, I def feel where you’re coming from as women see men start all over and be everything you wanted him to be I another relationship is heartbreaking! Like you I would need me some Toni Braxton to get me through the heartbreak & 🐝 Bee to shake me back like “Boy Bye’” Lol
    Good post Asia 🌻

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  4. I mean we can feel empathy for her but honestly….. she made her decision to stay with him all 18 years and she never made a life for herself, so really whos fault is it? Also she never loved herself, because she became everything Robert needed to be instead of becoming the woman she was meant to be! So, I don’t know…..

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